In 40 years of ministry, working with struggling people in the intimate setting of a counseling office, I have discovered two things: Damaged relationships are terribly common, and many people don't know what to do about them. Most people do the best they know to do, but relational healing is not accomplished when we fail to do the needed thing, or worse, do something else that actually increases the damage. In this writing, I help my reader gain a better grasp on the tools needed to repair damaged relationships and enable the proper use of them. Until we know to do better, we typically continue to do the things that don't work. Repairing damaged relationships is often very difficult at best; attempting the work without necessary knowledge and skills, however, is impossible. What you will read herein can help you address damage to relationships, whether you caused the damage or you have suffered damage as a result of another's actions. My family of origin did not equip me with these truths. Grasping them has helped me build better relationships in God's wisdom. You can, too