Hitting their mid-thirties and still uncertain about relationships, sex, and love, CJ DeBarra launched into a quest for understanding.

Growing up in West Cork, Ireland, CJ knew they were ADHD, but its implications remained mysterious. To write this book, they drew on academic research, medical studies, the lived experience of other queer ADHD individuals, and their background as an ADHD journalist. CJ fearlessly explored the raw realities of heartbreak, love, and sexuality, and delved into the complexities of desire, the impact of distractions during intimacy, the role of dopamine, and the allure of unconventional sexual experiences. Moreover, CJ sheds light on alarmingly low diagnosis rates for women, transgender individuals, and non-binary individuals, urging readers to advocate for improved healthcare.

This book also has a wider focus, which explores the reasons why the diagnosis rates are so low for women, transgender and non-binary folk, why this matters, and why we should be demanding better healthcare.

Join CJ on a voyage of self-discovery, where vulnerability, courage, and unwavering determination unravel the mysteries of relationships, sex, and love for ADHD individuals and their loved ones.