From young, we try to impress our parents and make them happy. We behave ourselves and stay out of trouble. We study and work hard to make our parents proud. We did everything we can to please our parents but yet it's never enough. They still treat us the same.

Why is it so difficult to get our parents to love us?

Children long for their parents love. They want to be loved and accepted for who they are. But wait a minute... we are adults now. We are no longer children. Why are we still craving for our parents' approval? No matter how old you are, whenever you are with parents, you automatically become a kid again and your parents will play their roles. Your relationship with your parents often stays the same. Since you can't change your parents, the only way to improve your relationship with your parents is to change yourself.

Be Your Own Parent 

If you are constantly longing for love from someone else such as your parents, partner, or friends, you might want to revisit your childhood. As children, we didn't receive the love we desire from our parents. So we are still seeking someone to fulfill this void in us. The truth is we have the capacity to love ourselves. We don't have to wait for someone else to give us the affirmations and validations we need. Changing your parents or hoping they will treat you differently will only leave you disappointed, frustrated, and hurt.