During my own personal journey in a Female Led Lifestyle, I have come to see why spanking, paddling, whipping and canning is important and is such a popular and erotic form of training men. Obedience must be demanded by each woman, if she wishes to rule like a Queen over each man. A Female Led Relationship may start out and often does as a male sexual fantasy, but it must evolve into a real lifestyle, where the woman really leads and the man really obeys or it simply will not work. I have seen many LOVE & OBEY couples reach this crossroads, and I often receive letters from men complaining that the woman has really adopted leadership of the relationship. They complain that now she wants to do things that they do not want her to do, but the Woman will no longer listen. These men quickly learn that women who have been set free into a Female Led Lifestyle, no longer care what men will "allow" and they realize they are now free to do as they see fit. They are "Modern Day Queens," and they view the man as their subject, or as their knight, either way they require the man to obey their commands. So today the LOVE & OBEY movement has moved far away from a fantasy or a game, it is a real lifestyle and men and women, thousands upon thousands of them around the world are fully committed to it. A Female Led lifestyle involves setting up some rules for a man's behavior that can be monitored by his female authority. If he breaks a rule, then he knows that he must be disciplined for doing so. This discipline teaches men to behave in a more submissive, obedient and loving way. Some couples set up rules together, while others rely on the female leader alone to create them. Some rules of male behavior are actually suggested by the man, because he wants to work on some negative aspect of his own behavior or attitudes that he believes is holding him back from becoming a more submissive and loving man. Today thousands of women are taking control and taking responsibility over men, they are proving to be their natural superiors. Theses women are using discipline and more to lead the way and make certain that the man submits to his woman's will and is 100% (not 99%) obedient to female authority.