Looking for a powerful marriage book packed with tools? Welcome to the Total Marriage Refresh!We spend thousands of hours on education and training to have a successful career but almost none on how to have a successful marriage. No wonder marriage can be so difficult, we haven't been properly trained.Consider this book your new marriage training manual! It will walk you through the top six steps needed for marital satisfaction. The pages are packed with practical insights and tools to help all couples spanning from those recently engaged to those needing marriage counseling.The author Dr. Wyatt Fisher is a licensed psychologist specializing in marriage counseling in Boulder, CO. In addition, his own marriage since 1999 has been to the brink of divorce and back, so he writes from both a personal and professional perspective.Here are the top six steps covered. 1-Establishing a Covenant Foundation: How we approach marriage greatly impacts how we respond to problems when they occur. The contract approach says I'm committed as long as I'm in love and my needs are met. In contrast, the covenant approach says I'm committed for the long-haul, even when we go through seasons of winter. The covenant approach fosters deeper security, which leads to greater emotional and physical intimacy.
2-Owning Your Brokenness: Have you noticed you and your partner aren't perfect? We all have shortcomings we bring into marriage and they interact with our partner's, which creates sparks and sometimes bonfires! Learning to identify and own your brokenness creates emotional safety and will help you resolve conflicts quicker.
3-Learning to Share Power: Ideally, we all would effortlessly share power on decisions in marriage. Unfortunately, this is rare because some of us are controlling and some of us are passive. Therefore, learning to share power so both partners have an equal voice on all topics pertaining to the relationship is critical.
4-Developing Emotional Attachment: Most couples start out being best friends with one another. However, as kids, careers, and finances enter the scene, many lose their connection. This step helps couples get it back, through constructive conflict resolution, healing resentments, and nurturing emotional intimacy.
5-Cultivating Sexual Fireworks: Amazing sex happens naturally in the early stages of relationships but usually becomes problematic long-term because of unhealed sexual trauma, differences in libido, stress, or emotiona